How to Make a Girl Horny (Behavior 3)

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This is the third and last of a series of posts that covers The Three Behaviors to attract girls:

  1. Behavior 1 —Confidence. The 11 Traits of The Alpha Male.
  2. Behavior 2 —Protection. How to Attract Women by Being Protective.
  3. Behavior 3 —Making her feel sexually desired.

In my last post I mentioned that the friendzone is typically caused by too much Behavior 2. The other cause of being friendzoned is not showing enough Behavior 3. This last behavior is all about making her feel sexually desired at the right time.

This post isn’t about making her feel sexually desired for the sake of it, or just to turn her on. It’s about making her feel sexually desired because that will make her attracted to you.

At the first levels of intimacy, Behavior 3 will be light comments on her beauty or a stare. At higher levels, making her feel sexually desired will be making her horny. Let’s dive in.

Making Her Feel Sexually Desired

First off, know that making women feel sexually desired is both an attraction trigger and a sexual trigger. It makes them horny and attracted to you. Not like an on/off switch of course. But as a part of the behavior they seek in men. That’s why girls dress with tight clothes and like to constantly post selfies. You can read more about it in this study.

To start with the right foot, let’s enunciate Behavior 3:

You’re a man who takes the initiative at the right time —under certain conditions that we’ll see— to make HER feel sexually desirable and leveling up your intimacy or escalating.

Making her feel sexually desired and leveling up your intimacy are two different things. You can just make a sexually-charged compliment and stay at your current level of intimacy. You can get more intimacy without showing sexual interest too (hello friendzone.)

But typically they go hand-in-hand. Typically it is you who has to move forward, tell her how she makes you feel and kiss her, introducing a new level of intimacy.

So for instance, Behavior 3 is showing sexual forwardness in things like:

  • Approaching to meet her (if you choose a Direct approach where you show interest right away).
  • Asking her number.
  • Making clear comments about her beauty. Especially with a sexy focus.
  • Asking her out on a date.
  • Kissing her for the first time.
  • Having sex with her for the first time.

Have you ever heard a girl say something like “I made it so obvious that I liked him, but he didn’t do anything!” or “I tried to hint that I liked him but he didn’t get it”?

Girls’ role is not to escalate, but to let you know that you can.

They show their interest much more subtly and almost never with direct verbal language.

Instead, they’ll show non-verbal and indirect signs that they like you (check out that post if you don’t remember what those are.)

Once you perceive those signs, you can level up. But before reaching that point, you have to “seed the ground” with sexual statements with no other purpose than the sexual statement itself.

Limits?

There isn’t a clear restriction as there is with Behavior 2 —which you should only show if she is a good girl and respectful to you.

I’ve actually shown Behavior 3 when girls seemed disrespectful because they were clearly testing me. So I said something along the lines of “It’s a shame that you say that. You’re so gorgeous and I thought for a second you were funny…” It sounds so dramatic but I have a fun attitude and can pull that off.

That way I show Behaviors 1 and 3. Because I’m so confident and selective, but also tell her I think she’s hot. She can’t help but feel attracted to that.

Just don’t use Behavior 3 when logic tells you not to. Other than that you’re fine.

Intensify Your Sexual Fordwardness with The Level of Intimacy

If you regularly read me, you already know that The Three Behaviors are stronger as your intimacy grows up. The Core of Attraction is truly the basics of attracting women, so this Behavior 3 is no exception.

I’ll make a rough list of the different levels of intimacy to explain how I would show Behavior 3 in each case. I say “rough list” because I don’t want you to copy my personality. My goal is for you to have the framework so you can use it.

  1. You don’t know her ➔ Nothing, at best you look into her eyes from the distance to see if she reciprocates.
  2. You meet her ➔ Gentle comments on her beauty.
  3. Chatting and friendly joking ➔ A bit more sexual comments like: “OMG you’re stunning in that dress“.
  4. Having a deep —but fun— conversation to know each other better. Touching casually with no sexual purpose. ➔ Sexual jokes, like: “If you don’t stop staring at me like that and looking so hot I won’t be able to avoid making you three babies right now.”
  5. Hugging or affectionate kissing ➔ The same but more strongly, with a greater emotional emphasis.
  6. Sweet, affectionate kisses on the mouth ➔ Kissing her when she’s having fun with you and doesn’t expect those.
  7. Sexual passionate kissing ➔ The same as previous.
  8. Having Sex ➔ The same as previous but getting naughtier. Also, willingness to have sex with her at public places because you can’t resist how hot she is. You get the idea.
  9. Being a couple ➔ Get creative 🙂

Very important. This really applies to all three behaviors, but it’s noteworthy to remember it here:

every level includes the things you do in previous levels.

So for instance, when you already have regular sex with her, you still make sexual jokes about how hot she is.

Or when you two are a married couple, you still tell her how sexy she is in that dress.

How to Make Sexual Comments

It is much better to compliment particular traits and make sexual comments as specific as possible. It’s much better to say “your eyes when you look at me that way drive me crazy” than “you look hot“.

That not only gives her more reasons to make her feel specially desired by you. It also gives you more room for creativity and improvisation. Plus you’ll actually find more things attractive in her than tits and ass. In general, you want to avoid complimenting her like the next guy in line.

Also, remember that women communicate with much more emotional relevance. Use frequently a structure like: What you like + Why you like that + How you feel about that.

Make the Girl Feel Desired with No Other Purpose

Unless the sexual move directly aims at leveling up your intimacy (for example, kissing her for the first time) all those sexual comments and actions should be done not expecting something directly out of them.

It’s like Behavior 2 —protection which we saw in last post. You do it with all people because it’s part of your values and your way of living.

If you expect her to wet her panties after you compliment her ass on that dress, you’re being needy. If you don’t even compliment her ass on that dress because of what can happen, then you’re afraid.

So you do it casually. Don’t force it because you’re so horny and needy.

When you feel amazed by something she has, tell her. Her gorgeous face? Her ass? The hot way she dresses? The sexy way she talks to you? The way she walks?

Display Behavior 3 to “seed the ground”. Don’t expect immediate results. They may come within an hour. They may come after two dates. Once she’s clearly showing signs of interest and she’s ready to level up, do it!

Fear and Need

I talk a lot about overcoming fear and need to let The Three Behaviors flow naturally. However it’s important to zero in on Behavior 3 because this is a biggie.

In my case, showing sexual interest was the biggest roadblock I had. I was so inexperienced in openly telling girls what I liked about them that I avoided it time and time again.

I was once with a slightly chubby but super-hot frenchie with two powerful reasons for me to compliment her sexually. She was giving me huge signs that she wanted me to escalate. But I was so lost and afraid that I avoided it. OMG it hurts to even remember it.

You have to take action, man. Don’t make my mistake.

The solution? Try. Try. Try again.

There’s really no other option because if you can’t say “OMG you’re hot in that dress” now, you have to try until you can say it. Luckily you’ll benefit from my post to overcome fear, and this one on breaking goals into smaller steps. 🙂

Then there’s the alternative. That you read this post and now start overdoing it and being too sexual too soon. That’s not good either because girls will see you as a pig that only wants them for sex.

But trust me. If you’ve been too sexually shy, it’s best to overdo it for a while, rather than stay shy.

Now I’m at a point where I don’t even mind if there’s other people around (as long as I’m respectful) to make a sexual compliment. I do it with such confidence that it is either ignored by some or almost applauded by others. You can get there too. Now you just have to start. C’mon!

Change The Subject to Release Sexual Tension

Especially with the more sexual comments and actions, and especially when you’re leveling up, you have to release the tension.

For instance imagine yourself telling her “You look super hot in that tight dress.” out of the blue in conversation. But it’s the first time. You never did it before. You create a lot of sexual tension, which is good. However…

It is your duty to release the tension.

The best way is to casually introduce another topic because you’re a master at talking to girls.

So you could say:

— You look super hot in that tight dress.

— Thanks (her)

[sexual tension]

— So, what was that thing you were telling me about…

OR

— By the way, its fabric is great. It looks like some sport shirt I have. But it probably isn’t the same, is it? (even though you are still talking about the dress, you’re not focusing on making her feel sexually desired anymore.)

Wrapping it up

You must show sexual forwardness for three purposes:

  • To “seed the ground” and make her feel sexually desired by you.
  • To level up your intimacy when the next level is a “sexual” one (kiss, sex, etc.)
  • To turn her on.

Don’t overanalyze each sentence. Sometimes your statement will achieve all three, sometimes just one. Stick to The Three Behaviors without need and fear and it will come out naturally.

You now know how to make a girl feel sexually desired. Plus with the previous two posts, you have a complete understanding of The Three Behaviors. Live by them and you’ll always be attractive. If you still hesitate, please drop me an email or visit my dating AMA.

So, how are you going to make the girls you like feel sexually desired? Do you have any roadblocks? Tell me in the comments below.

One thought on “How to Make a Girl Horny (Behavior 3)

  1. Cynthia Smith

    Hi,

    I became curious about the Alpha Male Behavior and decided to look up on Google and found your post. It is enlightening to know what goes through the mind of an Alpha Male and how he sees me (the woman). Uhmmmmmm, I met an Alpha Male and I am attractive to him and he knows it. I feel embarrassed at times because I think there were times when he reacted to me and didn’t want me around although I was never in his face or around his circle of close friends he connect with. I see that he responds to other women differently as in he welcomed their presence. It is obvious that when I enter the room he knows that I am there and he looks away. There were times when he would appear out of nowhere and would be standing right beside me without my knowledge for a period of time and then when I notice him there , he walks away ! We have made eye contact like crazy earlier on and then one day he saw me sitting somewhere and said, ” There you are!’ I felt that he was looking for me when he did not see me for awhile or long period of time. I am crazy about him and I have seen him look at me from time to time and then look away. He is a major standout in society and the community, internationally know, on the radio, have been on the red carpet in Hollywood and won an award for what he does in the community. Sought after Speaker, and Amazing man who is inspiring, funny sense of humor, owns a Harley Davidson and a Frat Brother, the lists goes on and on! I think that without these things I would still be crazy about him. And there are times when I feel that I make him feel uncomfortable. He knows a lot of people who are doing just as well as he is! I often wondered if that has anything to do with it.

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