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How to (Actually) Impress a Girl

Categories: Relationships, Dating, Love

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UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

If you are looking for a quick formula to impress a girl in your next Tinder message, this is not the article for you. This is a deeper look at what actually impresses women and makes them attracted to men. Learn this and you won’t have to google ‘how to impress a girl’ ever again.

Imagine we just met, and I awkwardly tell you I am fluent in 12 languages. Not in a way that naturally flows from the conversation, but in an off-topic way, out-of-the-blue, breaking the conversation flow –as if wanted to tell everyone.

Now, are you impressed? And if so… Do you want to be my friend? Do you irresistibly want to know me more because of that?

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How to Get My Crush to Like Me

Categories: Relationships, Dating, Love

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UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

You see her every day. She’s hot. She’s pretty. She’s gorgeous. Very nice to you. You don’t really know if she likes you, but you hope she did. You may think you want her just for sex. Or you’re in love with her. You even joked around with your friends about you kinda sorta liking her…

But no matter the case, deep inside you’re constantly thinking about her, every day.

She’s your crush.

I know it firsthand. I even hate to remember this. For instance, I remember one evening I spent like 4 hours on bed, looking at the ceiling, thinking the best way to talk to that girl who looked at me so intensely.

In this post I’m going to show you step-by-step what you need to do to attract her and level up with her.

But also, I’m going to tell you an uncomfortable truth that most guys don’t want to hear.

Ironically, knowing this truth will put you in the position to attract her.

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How to Make a Girl Horny (Behavior 3)

Categories: Relationships, Dating, Love

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UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

This is the third and last of a series of posts that covers The Three Behaviors to attract girls:

  1. Behavior 1 —Confidence. The 11 Traits of The Alpha Male.
  2. Behavior 2 —Protection. How to Attract Women by Being Protective.
  3. Behavior 3 —Making her feel sexually desired.

In my last post I mentioned that the friendzone is typically caused by too much Behavior 2. The other cause of being friendzoned is not showing enough Behavior 3. This last behavior is all about making her feel sexually desired at the right time.

This post isn’t about making her feel sexually desired for the sake of it, or just to turn her on. It’s about making her feel sexually desired because that will make her attracted to you.

At the first levels of intimacy, Behavior 3 will be light comments on her beauty or a stare. At higher levels, making her feel sexually desired will be making her horny. Let’s dive in.

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How to Attract Women by Being Protective (Behavior 2)

Categories: Relationships, Dating, Love

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UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

This is the second of a series of posts that covers The Three Behaviors to attract girls:

  1. Behavior 1 —Confidence. The 11 Traits of The Alpha Male.
  2. Behavior 2 —Protection.
  3. Behavior 3 —Making her feel desired. How to Make a Girl Horny.

As part of The Core of Attraction framework to attract women, you know you should be protective, be romantic and take care of a woman to make her attracted to you. Most guys end up friendzoned because they do this too much.

In this post we’ll cover what is Behavior 2 —Protection and exactly when to show it and when not to.

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How to Make Her Fall in Love: The 36 Questions

Categories: Relationships, Dating, Love

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UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

Last Monday we reviewed the main topics to talk about with a girl. It was important because I highlighted the different topics we can talk about depending on the intimacy with the girl. Our goal, obviously, is to level up the intimacy with her. But I said what we’ll be covering today is powerful stuff.

Not only it will help you ramp up the intimacy with her at lightning speed. You will have a huge list of topics to talk about with her that make her much more likely to develop feelings for you.

A few researchers lead by Arthur Aron figured out 36 questions that accelerate the intimacy between two people (original paper). It starts with:

“A practical methodology is presented for creating closeness in an experimental context.”

These 36 questions are a way to supercharge the closeness with a person.

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Best Topics to Talk About With a Girl

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UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

Do you run out of topics to talk about with a girl you like? You don’t even know how to start? Let’s review the powerful basic ideas to make your conversation flow naturally, have fun, and make her attracted to you.

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