The Signs That a Girl Likes You and Wants to Move Forward

UPDATE: this is an old article. It doesn't reflect my current way of thinking (you can read more about it here). But that doesn't mean there is no value in it! It can still be useful to you, like it was helpful to me at some point. Some corrections have been made, but not enough to change its original essence. So, if you find it useful, then use it!

Does she like you? How can you be sure before making the right move? Not knowing the common signs of attraction is keeping you from getting many hot girls that are interested in you now. Guaranteed. It happened to me. When you learn these, you’ll facepalm hard.

Let’s solve that problem right away by learning the most common signs that a girl likes you.

Does this girl like me?

Yes —probably. But before going into her signs of interest in you, let me make something clear.

The first thing you have to do is trust your intuition. It is right. It has been right for thousands of years of human existence. What makes you hesitate is not a misinterpretation of her interest in you. It’s your fear of being wrong and getting rejected.

I know it very well because I had the same problem, but 10x. I liked a girl in college but I kept wondering “does she like me? what if…?” I think it was after 2 years when I talked to her. Her signs of interest in me were obvious from day one, but I was so clueless I did nothing.

My intuition was right. It was fear what paralyzed me. I won’t let that happen to you.

I will give you the details of how to make a move on her safely right away. But since your original question was something along the lines of “does she like me?” let’s make sure we’re talking about the same signs that she’s interested in you.

Signs That a Girl is Interested in You

I will create a post dedicated to signs of interest so for now I’ll give you the categories those signs fall in:

• She pleases you and makes your life easier and happier. For example doing something just because you asked.
• She keeps the interaction between you and her alive, physically, emotionally, logistically (making it easier for you to see her, talk to her, etc.) or sexually. For example talking to you even when you run out of topics.
• She tests if you follow The Three Behaviors, or have some need or fear. For example asking you to do crazy things to see if you’re a pushover to get her attention.
• She expresses an attitude that doesn’t have with everybody else. For example looking at you with no reason. The more difference with other people the better.

If you constantly see two or three signs like those, she’s subtly begging for you to move forward. Great! Don’t be afraid and just do it. No girl does that with someone she’s not interested in.

Attraction through a girl’s eyes…

The second thing you really have to understand is that girls’ attraction isn’t black or white.

You either like a girl or not. If she’s ugly like born in Mordor, you reject her as a sexual partner in milliseconds (literally) as you see her. Right? Girls aren’t that way.

If pristine shiny white is no attraction at all, and total black is the most attraction a girl can feel, men are constantly moving up and down the gray-scale in between.

You get her more attracted to you by following the three principles of The Core of Attraction. She gets disinterested every time you do the opposite.

That’s why I always say that The Core of Attraction is so powerful to get girls, but you must follow it to-the-letter.

For example, let’s say you know how to get a girlfriend with The Core of Attraction. You find the girl at a party, approach and start hitting it off (you start moving up the gray-scale). However, suddenly she starts acting a little disinterested. She even starts talking to someone else in the middle of something you were saying. “That’s disrespectful!” you think. A while later, she comes back and asks you to buy her a drink. You tell her in a kind or joking, but serious manner: “Ha ha sorry. I don’t allow myself to buy drinks to pretty girls who leave me hanging while talking. Try with that guy” and you go away. (The point is to be firm and honest but not getting angry.) That is Behavior 1 to its fullest. She becomes MUCH more interested in you after that.

And what about the guy who answers “yeah of course pretty, let’s have a drink!” after she was so disrespectful? She thinks: “this guy’s a pussy” and loses all attraction.

So you can think: “well… if I can move up or down the grayscale… it doesn’t matter if she loses attraction, because I can always gain it back.“

You’re right. The problem is that attraction is lost much easier than it’s gained, because especially before having sex, girls are constantly looking for these mindset mistakes so they can rule out the guys who don’t get it. But don’t get discouraged because following The Three Behaviors is very easy once you master them.

So remember:

In case you haven’t arrived to yet, you’ll have to follow The Three Behaviors until you start clearly seeing she’s ready for you to make the next move.

Making the Next Move

The moment she’s showing you just a few signs of interest like the ones we saw at the beginning, you can (and should before she loses interest) move forward!

If you’ve read How to Get a Girlfriend, you already know when to “level up” your intimacy.

It’s all about naturally entering the next level of intimacy when she’s comfortable at the current level of intimacy and is having fun with you.

For example if your current level is “fun, deep, personal, conversations” you could start touching her (non-sexually) in your conversations, then ask her for a date, then kiss, etc.

You gotta go step-by-step!

Here’s a quick quiz to check your knowledge about signs of attraction:

I hope this was helpful. Now tell me. What can you make now to move forward with the girl you like?